The Missing Concept That Stops You From Getting Your Goals

It’s nothing to do with food or exercise, and almost everyone that has come across my path and wanted to get healthier has come to me with out having this concept programmed within their goals. What is it? Well, It’s being super specific with your goals. How can you hit a specific target if your vague in your directions. Just like putting in a full address in your cars’ GPS navgiation system when you have to get somewhere, you must also do the same to your internal navigation system otherwise how does it find it’s way there without all the mental detours?

Out of all my clients, not one that I can remember come to me and said, I want to be X kilos by DD/MM/YYYY (specific date). Many had come with the vague goal of just “losing weight”, and some would come with a rough figure of what they wanted, like “maybe 30kg” to start with, but never with an absolute and confident specific number by a certain date. Occasionally they would tell me there was a special occasion to lose weight for, but even then it seemed to be a general wish.

It’s not anyone’s fault though. I was like that, before I discovered the world of personal development and life coaching. The problem was that when I taught the theory to people, I’m not sure how many of them took it seriously. But the one’s that did, well… all I can say is that them targetting specifics made them very much more motivated and hit their goals much more often then the generalists.

Now I’m not saying you can’t lose weight and get your goals without a specific target, you can. But I’m just letting you know that if you want to win your race then be specific like an athlete. Let’s look at an Olympian runner, they have a certain race date, and a specific time, usually down to the seconds to target. And it’s generally their personal best that they need to beat measured in seconds. Why can’t you think the same? Why can’t you think like an athlete? “But, I’m not an Athlete!” I hear you, but that doesn’t stop you thinking like one. And let me tell you when you start thinking this way, your brain get’s more serious about your goal.

So if you feel a sense of frustration every time you see bulges in your body, and asking yourself why doesn’t things shift when I attempt my weight loss goals, then ask yourself, are you truely prepared mentally first? The reason why many fat loss plans fail is that many people fail to commit themselves mentally first. Yes, your physical transformation all starts in your mind.

The other barrier mentally that can creep in is all the failed attempts. Now ask youself, were you general about your goals or where you laser specific? Regardless, (as long as you are alive) forget about the past as there is still a chance for you to lose weight and hit your targets. But only if you change your mindset this time and set a super clear goal in mind.

Without a clear goal, it’s hard. If all you do is say to yourself (or to others) that “I want to lose weight” then that is not a goal. It’s a wishy washy passing thought, that may cross your mind periodically. A specific goal is something that is measurable and has a timeline. An example of a good goal would be, to be 5 kilo lighter (10 pounds) in exactly three weeks (use the date in your languaging). A goal should also be realistic. Trying to lose 5 kilos (10 pounds) in a week is not a good goal. In fact, it can even be considered as an unhealthy and dangerous goal.

It’s true that you can lose weight through exercise alone, and when you add in healthy eating conistently, then you can accelerate your results. But you will be able to achieve your target weight much faster if your fat loss program teaches you how to set great clear and specific goals, priming your mind to be laser targeted and in congruency with your body.

When myself or my clients write goals I add in one more idea however. If you have signed up to receive my free book, I’ve got some great video training on how to set specific goals with the most important ingredient. Otherwise you can also check out this post on how to set powerful specifc and clear goals, before you attempt your next weight loss goal. You might also consider reading this article on goal motivation, after you have set your clear goals – Is your goal motiving you enough?

If you have any questions goal setting then let me know in the comments below and I’ll be happy to help you. Good luck with your goal setting first!


As a Trainer and Coach for over 10 years now, I've helped many people reach their goals as well as achieve my own including having lost 35kg. I'm my very own guinea pig when it come to achieving a fitter, healthier life and now I'm here to help you. Start by signing up to the Really Really Fit newsletter, Free Book and Video training that will change your mindset and life.

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